These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’
Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize. —
Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)
BOOOM. Read this if you are a dude, please.
(via quothtehblackbirdnevermoar)Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)
“Beach Besties”, 1947
[The Beach House Album, 1946-49]
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A still from SHIRA’s new music video for Myth directed by Jessie Levandov.
Coming August 2014.
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- there is nothing wrong with going through phases while you try and figure out who you are
- there is nothing wrong with being confused about who you are. at any point in your life
- there is nothing wrong with saying you were x identity a year ago and today saying you are something else.
it does not mean you lied
it does not mean you were doing it to be trendy
it means you changed
thats what people do over time: they change
and that’s ok
i’m happy i saw this
Gwen Wong / Playboy’s Playmate of the Month, April 1967 / photographed by Mario Casilli.
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